Well i’ve been married to my wife for 13 years now, were high school sweethearts. Currently have 3 kids. For me to tell this story of my wife i didnt realize until just last month. During that month i setup her with a therapist. We had a rough last four years together and she currently has very little feelings for me or null. We been through her cheating on me, hurting our kids by her leaving on several occasions just to party and get away from me. She says now days that im controlling and i irritate her a lot. But i tell her im doing this just for your well being. Everything i do in my marriage and family lifestyle is to raise my family up right, not perfect, just right! Now i get relatives and friends that offer me support and advice to tell me to let her go, shes an alcoholic, she cheated on you so let her be on her own, tell her to seek help from God; but she dont want to go to church and if i push the issue she gets mad. I dont know if divorce is the answer? I know if i leave her, now that i know of her condition, she’ll be the same person with no help or guidiance. We’ve gone out to clubs a few times just to make her happy, i really dont like to these days since we have kids to raise and i dont want them to see us going out a lot. And when we do go out she drinks too much then passes out and at times we get into arguments. I’ve never cheated on her but i have hit her a few years ago but more like a hard push and hits on her legs, never hit her face or slapped her. I didn’t wanna do it but i just got so frustrated with her and partying. I even called the cops on myself but they didnt seem i was a threat to her anymore when they showed up. That next day i apoloigzed! I felt like nothing to my wife. But still to this day i never did it again or even in our current marriage. Still im fighting this battle with her since now i know her situation. She says she dont love me and i irritate her these days, but i know that she dont mean that because after reading about her condition through her therapist paperworks, theres a part in there that says a numb feeling and trouble to respond to affectionate people. Im thinking thats me. I dont know how long i’ll last in this marriage? I hate for my kids to see mom take off and lie to them about things of herself. Especially drink to ease her pains or just for her enjoyment. I even talked to her about her drinking, i told her to drink casually not to pass out. Then maybe i would ease up on you about drinking and maybe clubbing but still i dont want that lifestyle for us, maybe just once in a great while. Geez were parents and we got responibilites i tell her. So now she knows she has PTSD she dont know how to cope with it. I’m asking anybody out there whose story sounds like mine or close to it please help me and advise me to see if im able to gain my wife back and rid her illness or should i just get the divorce? thanks!